tracing hairs, muscles, veins: sitting still during visiting hours

Late June, my horse was injured pretty badly. Well, it wasn't supposed to be a big deal, but infection set in and the damaged tendon started to adhere, and long story short, he's been in and out of the equine hospital for the past 6 weeks or so and tolerating pretty aggressive treatments when he's been lucky enough to be home. It's been rough, and I haven't been able to enjoy what for me is the most effective stress reliever out there - riding my horse - while going through this relatively stressful time. But I got something else out of it, something I really appreciated the other day while I was visiting him at the hospital, sitting in silence in his stall, watching his lips as he sifted through straw for his endless supply of fragrant green hay, admiring the sheen of his coat and the delicate, ever present veins beneath his thin thoroughbred skin: my mind was quiet, in tune, present.

In this sometimes overwhelming American culture in which I live, busyness is something that is expected, lauded, admired. "I've been busy" has become a standard response to "How have you been?" It's something I find myself saying, even if I'm not all that busy, because to be anything else could be mistaken for being [insert undesirable characteristic here].

As I've been setting out on this new path of mine over the past several months - stepping away from research and academia, trying my hand at freelance writing, preparing to head to India for Yoga Teacher Training - I've found that a routine, almost daily yoga practice helps me retain the focus to work without any hard deadlines and to manage the stress associated with personal issues, such as my horse's injury. But I've also begun to seek out the quiet this practice offers. It's so un-American, so unfamiliar and unnerving, and it's definitely not easy. During a meditation the other morning, the instructor challenged us to observe how long it took us before we lost focus on the breath moving in and out of our nostrils, to consider the implications of the fact that, for most of us, attention didn't stay fixed but wandered instead to the day's tasks, to yesterday's stresses, to life's goals. And this particular yoga instructor likes to refer to this relentless tendency to drift away from right now as an addiction to the busyness of our minds, of our lives. And while as a drug researcher I have all kinds of issues with the concept of addiction, in this particular brain-limited, metaphorical sense, I think it rings quite true. I like that busyness. There is comfort in it. Plus, it's a habit so ingrained, I almost don't know what to do in its absence.

So, I've been trying, throughout my days, off my mat, to consciously observe moments, to be present. And the other day, in Reed's stall, I did just that. Not perfectly, but glowingly. And I carried the joy of fully being there, in shared silence with an animal for whom the present is the primary place to be, for the rest of the day. So that when I left his side and returned home, I smelled the nutty smell that is the top of my dog's head, I listened to the slight burning in my eyes from too many hours spent reading and writing electronically, I savored the bright fruits that made up so many of that day's meals. I attempted to just be.

Then, last night, I was reading this tongue-in-cheek article about the many things foreigners find frustrating (and endearing?) about Americans, and of course one stood out to me: "You live to work. Too bad your life sucks." This certainly doesn't apply to all of us, and the author doesn't claim that it does, but it's become enough of a cultural norm that many of us risk missing our lives in their entireties as we chase something of much more arbitrary value.

I'm aware that my observations and thoughts on this matter are by no means novel and I have certainly not abandoned my compulsion toward busyness, toward work with "value", toward being defined by my career (or lack of it). What I did do that I hope pushes me toward a bit more balance was stop, sit still, and carefully, lovingly, trace exactly what was in front of me.

When life is edgework...maybe too many edges?

Lately, in the hopes of expanding my research identity beyond "the girl who studies meth use," I've been learning a lot about edgework theory and constructions of risk, especially in sport, and I can't help but think about how it applies to my own life. A very simplistic explanation of edgework theory is that it situates voluntary risk taking within the structures of the capitalist economy, conceptualizing it as embodiment of, escape from, or resistance to one's position in it. Lyng's edgework, at its core, is about the skillful navigation of the wiggly and fuzzy boundary that ostensibly separates chaos from control. According to Lyng and other edgework theorists, this navigation of risk (physical, emotional, and psychological) arises as a means of achieving fulfillment. In this sense, many behaviors can be conceptualized as edgework, from so-called lifestyle or extreme sports (skydiving, mountaineering, and rock climbing for example) to high stakes careers, from the pro-ana subculture to participation in S&M. The argument goes that people seek out voluntary risk taking to find the fulfillment that is otherwise lacking in our current political-economic structure. In some forms of edgework, they resist this structure; in others (most of those that have been the center of researchers' attention) they embody it.

While I've never thought of myself as a risk taker or an edgeworker, if I use the above definition, I really always have been. I've spent the vast majority of my life riding horses, an activity that is often treated as a non-sport and low-risk although its risk and injury profile closely resembles motorcycle riding - when we do get hurt, it's often bad, and statistics put it up there as one of the more "dangerous" sports there is. Even as a kid, I rarely rode the quiet horses; most of my mounts were young with little training and/or came off the racetrack at some point. I jumped big jumps and competed in high-pressure situations, and for the most part, I loved it. I thrived on the thrill and, more importantly, on the challenge of walking that edge, of having to control my own nerves, of pushing myself to perform even when frightened or overwhelmed.

As an adult, I continued riding, though mostly this meant catching whatever free rides I could find - read: rescues, horses straight off the auction block, horses about whom little was known. I also spent much of my young adult life looking for something fulfilling and relished in the insecurity of traveling often and moving perhaps more often. In my 20s I met my now-husband who happens to be a rock climber and, despite my fear of heights, I learned to climb. In 2012, I completed a PhD and embarked upon what I hoped would be a fulfilling and exciting "soft money" career. At the time, I had a tough and athletic mare straight off the track. She was challenging emotionally and physically and, for someone like me (not the most assertive out there), she was borderline dangerous. But throughout the final years of my PhD, when I was adjuncting at least 2 classes a semester, commuting many hours each week, and writing writing writing, she filled a void and challenged me in important ways. I even thanked her in my dissertation. During this same time, I really started to push myself at lead climbing, and finally began learning to effectively manage my fear of heights and of falling. I was truly navigating multiple edges, and I was loving it!

Then something happened. I got scared. Really scared. I was scared of my tough horse and now, sometimes, I'm still scared of my much kinder horse. For a while I've been blaming my age, blaming an injury, blaming my schedule. But I can't quite buy it. I fluctuate too much. My confidence returns only to be shot down instantly. And I noticed the other day that when things look good at work, fear wanes in other areas.

That said...edgework theory has given me a new lens that I think is worth exploring. I graduated. I started working on a small NIH grant. My research was still exciting and comfortable, but about a year in, I began to feel the insecurity of soft money. My grant was going to run out and I hadn't yet found more funding. Suddenly, the edges that had been fulfilling were nothing but stressful. Suddenly, it was as though work had become edgework, too, as I sought to strategize ways to secure funding, as I sought to learn as many new subfields and bodies of literature as possible to cast a wide net of proposals, and as I struggled with the fear and insecurity that accompanies the constant threat of losing not only one's income, but one's identity. As the rejections continued, and the (unpaid) work hours lengthened, my job began to feel like the "high stakes" careers edgework researchers always talk about. I am constantly on multiple deadlines, deadlines that if I miss cost me a potential salary. And it's all wrapped up in my identity, or my identity is wrapped up in it. After all, I don't just do social science or anthropological research. I am an anthropologist. What happens if my funding just ends, what happens if I'm not anymore?

As the nature of my work shifted, so did my relationship to my favorite athletic endeavors. Suddenly, the horse's every threat became the potential for death and I couldn't manage my own fear any longer. Suddenly, I lost the progress I'd made lead climbing, and the prospect of even a tiny fall at the gym also became unmanageable. In recreation, I no longer see a boundary between chaos and control, or a way to manage fear. And this has a snowball effect. The more confidence I lose, the more challenging it is, and the less rewarding, to grapple with edges. In the past year, I've come to really want my recreation to feel safe...could it be because, right now, my job doesn't?

So, armed with this theory of edgework, I've begun to ask myself: is it possible to have "too many edges"? I'm so curious to know whether people's relation to edgework activities shifts such that they can only handle a few at a time, or if it only works if it feels truly voluntary, or if we all need varying amounts of it. Is voluntary risk-taking more appealing when most aspects of life are safe and secure?